Couples usually wait too long to go to therapy. According to Dr. John Gottman, couples wait about six years before scheduling a session. That is a long time to be miserable!

My response is that you do not need to wait for confirmation of impending doom to schedule a session. Couples do therapy to work through life transitions such as having a baby or changing jobs. They also go to therapy for a relational tune-up--regardless if they are 1000% in love at the time. 

You don't need red flags to go to therapy. Therapy is beneficial regardless.

Seek Therapy If...

...you aren't friends anymore. You don't even really like each other

...you resent him/her

...you are feeling attracted to someone outside of the relationship and worried that you might cheat

...you suspect the other person is cheating

...your sex life is lacking

...you don't handle conflict well

...you are only staying for the kids

...you give him/her the silent treatment

The point is that you don't need to wait--you can do couples therapy any time.

And if you're asking that question about struggling or a rough patch? You likely would benefit from a session to explore what is going on in your heart. 

Definitely Go to Therapy If . . .

...your spouse is demeaning

...your finances are locked away from you

...you are touched in ways that are not acceptable

...you are blackmailed into staying in the relationship

And if you are unsafe, go to your nearest shelter. Safety is required before doing therapy.